“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT
We read the list of qualities that describe true agape love and wonder how we can ever live up to them. But intuitively, we know that if we behave with love towards our fellow human beings, we will transform our sad and troubled world into a Utopia, a perfect society, with ideal laws, government, and social conditions, free from suffering, conflict, and greed, all because it is based on God’s Kingdom principles. But Paul wrote about love to the Corinthian church, which at the time seemed to reflect the opposite of God’s Kingdom living with its selfish behaviour. Earlier, we considered 1 Corinthians 6, where Paul remonstrated with the believers in Corinth for taking each other to secular courts to settle disputes. Then we read in 1 Corinthians 11:20-21, “When you meet together, you are not really interested in the Lord’s Supper. For some of you hurry to eat your own meal without sharing with others. As a result, some go hungry while others get drunk”. They had turned the Lord’s Supper into a meal of sorts, with those who were able to bring food and drink refusing to share it with those who were poor and lacked the necessary resources. Where were Paul’s teachings on love in all of that?
“Love is patient and kind”
These are verses that should be applied to our relationships with family members, both natural and spiritual. We should examine the way we treat others through the lens God has provided, as seen through Paul’s eyes, of the qualities required of believers everywhere. There is much to be written about each listed feature, but little to be gained by such an approach. All believers are obliged to sit down and dwell on how they treat others in the light of 1 Corinthians 13. I recall a family wedding that I attended, where the mother of the bride recited these verses during the ceremony. They sounded great and struck a chord of agreement with those present witnessing the marriage service, but what happened afterwards is another story. As we think of people we know, we often find many who irritate or hurt us. We know the boasters, the arrogant, the proud and the ignorant. We read the papers and soon find reports of injustices. Further afield, we read of wars and strife, intolerance and persecution, betrayals and so on. Enough to provide a stark comparison of opposites – God’s way of love and the devil’s way of pursuing evil and hatred.
But isn’t it strange that we always look to others to love in the way Paul described? Instead, we should look inward at ourselves. Human beings are quick to observe what others are doing wrong, but rarely apply the same rules to themselves. We sit in judgment of others but forget what Jesus said in Matthew 7:1-2, “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged”.
In our churches and fellowships, there will be many opportunities to apply 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 to the relationships we have with others. Jesus summed up the driving force behind these verses with His words in John 15:12-13, “This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends”. And so today, we look beyond the faults of others and instead ask ourselves how Jesus would have behaved. After all, His love was such that He truly laid down His life for His friends. But more than that, Jesus loved the world so much that He died for everyone, past, present and future. Why? So that He could spend eternity with them, and save them from eternal life in a place without Him. That’s love, perfect love, just as Paul described and more.
Dear Lord Jesus. You loved us so much that You died for us, so that through You our sins would be forgiven. Amen.
