Sorrow

Embracing Sorrow: The Path to Spiritual Growth

Posted on 17th Apr 202627th Mar 2026 by korgrocker

“I am not sorry that I sent that severe letter to you, though I was sorry at first, for I know it was painful to you for a little while. Now I am glad I sent it, not because it hurt you, but because the pain caused you to repent and change your ways. It was the kind of sorrow God wants his people to have, so you were not harmed by us in any way. For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death”.
2 Corinthians 7:8-10 NLT

Paul’s first letter must have had quite an impact on the Corinthian believers. Paul considered it to be “severe”, and the feedback he received indicated that they were hurt by it. I wonder how we would have reacted, had we been there in the congregation. But Paul was quite right in pointing out some of the issues that they were experiencing. There was the man sleeping with his stepmother, a blatant issue that apparently everyone knew about, and, worse, they boasted about it. There were divisions in the church, as people claimed allegiance, each to their preacher. They quarrelled with each other. They considered themselves superior to those in the society around them. There was a situation where one Christian took another to a secular court to decide a difference between them. Then they seemed confused about what to do with food that had been sacrificed to idols. Some were happy to eat it, but others said they shouldn’t. The list goes on, but we shouldn’t be too surprised. This was a cutting-edge church established by Paul in a hostile society, trailblazing in living the new life in Christ. It was important that the Corinthians experienced all the issues that they did, because as a result of Paul’s letters, they have helped countless believers ever since.

Paul’s first letter caused them pain, but that was a good thing because it led to repentance and a change in their ways. But that’s the thing about sin. It creeps up on people, and before they know it, problems arise. The case of the man and his stepmother probably began with a genuine display of Christian love, both by the couple and by the believers who knew them. One thing led to another, and before long, a sinful relationship had resulted. I like to think that as a result of Paul’s letter, the situation was resolved redemptively, with both parties being restored to a right relationship with Jesus. I also like to think that as a result of Paul’s letter, the believers saw the impact their divisions were having on their spiritual lives, and decided to resolve the situation with loving reconciliation. A hard-hitting letter from Paul resulted in restoration and resolution.

What about us pilgrims? Have we in some way allowed sin into our lives and suffered spiritually as a result? The problem is that we are good at keeping our behaviour hidden. Take, for example, the issue of men privately watching things on the internet that they shouldn’t be watching or getting involved with prostitutes. A sin that very soon destroys their spiritual lives. Most of the time, only those in public ministry get found out, as we know from an example from the 1980’s. But most continue to do things in secret that no one ever discovers. In such situations, the Holy Spirit brings conviction of the sin taking place. God, in His grace, engineers a series of situations that bring the sinner face to face with his sin. One way is through discipline. Hebrews 12:5-6, 11, “And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as his children? He said, “My child, don’t make light of the Lord’s discipline, and don’t give up when he corrects you. For the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child. … No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterwards there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way”. We thank God that He loves us too much to leave us in a life of sin. Painful correction is transitory, but it is necessary to keep upon the right path to glory.

“I have sinned against the Lord”

At other times, the Holy Spirit will give a word personally or publicly to bring about a change in behaviour. Perhaps God will give a prophetic word to one of His servants, and they deliver it to the person involved in sin. In 2 Samuel 12 we read about the prophet Nathan telling King David about two men, one rich and the other poor. The rich man owned many sheep, but the poor man owned only one. It was a lamb hand-reared by him and his family, and much loved by them, but one day the rich man took the poor man’s sheep to feed his guests. David was outraged that such a thing had happened and said so, but then Nathan delivered the bombshell. We read in 2 Samuel 12:7-9, “Then Nathan said to David, “You are that man! The Lord, the God of Israel, says: I anointed you king of Israel and saved you from the power of Saul. I gave you your master’s house and his wives and the kingdoms of Israel and Judah. And if that had not been enough, I would have given you much, much more. Why, then, have you despised the word of the Lord and done this horrible deed? For you have murdered Uriah the Hittite with the sword of the Ammonites and stolen his wife”. Nathan took his own life in his hands when he delivered his prophecy because such a forthright confrontation usually didn’t end well for the prophet. But we read in verse 13, “Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “Yes, but the Lord has forgiven you, and you won’t die for this sin”. I’m sure we have all read David’s prayer of contrition, Psalm 51. It starts, “Have mercy on me, O God, because of your unfailing love. Because of your great compassion, blot out the stain of my sins”. In verses 10 and 11 we read, “Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me. Do not banish me from your presence, and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me”. David restored. Sin confessed. But as we read the rest of David’s life, we find that there were still consequences.

We hope as believers that we are never confronted in such a way when we fall into sin. Come to that, we hope we never reach such a sinful stage in our walk of faith. But always at the back of our minds must be the thoughts that we have a Heavenly Father who loves us too much to allow us to live a life of deceit and sin. If we turn a deaf ear to our consciences, God will take more direct action to grab our attention and, consequently, save our souls. He loves us too much to leave us.

Dear Heavenly Father. Thank You for Your love and care. We, like lost sheep, have a tendency to go astray. Please help us to live our lives Your way and no other way. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Posted on 7th Apr 202221st Mar 2022 by korgrocker

“And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, He has identified you as His own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:30‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Is it possible to grieve, or make sorrowful, the Holy Spirit? As Christians, when we were saved by our acceptance of Jesus, His sacrifice at Calvary and repentance of our sins, we received the Holy Spirit and His power. To some it has been an amazing experience, a light bulb moment, a Damascus Road revelation. To others the Holy Spirit’s presence has been a gradual but significant in-filling. And through our Christian lives, there is a constant refilling, as we use the power within us in our service to God (Ephesians 5:18).

Of course, there are sadly some Christians who deny His presence, but He is a gift from God, as we can read in Acts 2:38, “Peter replied, “Each of you must repent of your sins and turn to God, and be baptised in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. Then you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.”

So as pilgrims, tramping our individual ways through life, we have the presence of God within us. Wouldn’t it be sad if we denied Him room within us? Wouldn’t that on its own be enough to make God sorrowful? God not only gave us the gift of salvation when we accepted Jesus, He also gave us the gift of His Spirit. Imagine on your birthday handing back a gift saying you didn’t want it – how would the giver feel? As wise pilgrims we accept God’s Gift with grateful hearts, making space within for His presence. Doing an internal spring-clean, moving the junk inside us into the garbage bin. But in our lives we will face into opportunities for disappointing the Holy Spirit. Perhaps through someone we meet. Or through what we watch on television or in a theatre. Or in our behaviour. And He will then become sorrowful.

Paul goes on to remind us to remember. To remember who we belong to, whose children we are, the relationship we have with our Father in Heaven. And of course remembering that the Holy Spirit is the guarantee of our future. Earlier we read Ephesian 1:14, “The Spirit is God’s guarantee that he will give us the inheritance he promised and that he has purchased us to be his own people. He did this so we would praise and glorify him.”. So what is this inheritance that God promised? One day we will cross the Great Divide into His presence. Jesus called it Paradise during His brief conversation with the thief on the adjacent cross.

So we pilgrims must be careful in the way we live. We can so easily make those around us sorrowful, with our behaviour, with our responses, or with our lack of love and care. And so it is with the Holy Spirit, except He lives within us. Even more in touch with us than our relatives or friends. Perhaps we should pray the prayer David did in Psalm 139, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life“. David knew, as Paul did, the importance, the necessity, of not making Him sorrowful.

Jesus did so much for us at Calvary. He died for our sins. He gave us His righteousness. He then gifted us His Spirit. God, we’re so grateful! Please forgive us for the times when we have made You sorrowful. Please lead us into Your presence, day by day. Amen.

Tears in a Bottle

Posted on 27th Sep 2021 by korgrocker

“You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in Your bottle. You have recorded each one in Your book.” Psalms‬ ‭56:8‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Why would the Psalmist write that God collects all his tears in a bottle? To modern readers that will seem a bit strange, but in David’s day, as well as in other periods in history, there was apparently a custom of collecting tears, there being a variety of containers available for such a use. They were called lachrymatories and perhaps were a part of funeral arrangements.

But what did David mean when he wrote this verse? And is it relevant today? I think it first of all points to an intimate relationship between David and his Heavenly Father. At every opportunity he came into God’s presence, sharing what was happening at the time. The good times and well as the bad times. The times of laughter and joy, as well as the times of sorrow and grief. In this verse David was sharing a time of sadness, noting that God was keeping track of all the times a similar situation had occurred in his life. When this Psalm was written, David had been captured by the Philistines – the story can be found in 1 Samuel 21. He realised that he wasn’t in a safe place and pretended to be insane to escape. But in the midst of all this there was one place in which he couldn’t be touched – God’s presence.

So do we think that God keeps a register of all our sorrows? I think that depends on our relationship with Him. David had a full-on relationship with God – nothing held back, good or bad. But what about us? Is our relationship to God limited to a weekly recital of the Lord’s Prayer followed by a couple of hymns? Or do we too, like David, chatter away to our loving Heavenly Father at every opportunity, sharing our life with Him? Perhaps David spent more times in Heavenly places than on Planet Earth. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 is a short verse, and it encourages us to, “Pray without ceasing“. I don’t believe it means we supply God with a continual shopping list of prayers. Rather, we must, like David, develop a conversational and intimate relationship – call it prayer if you like – with our Heavenly Father. Sharing all that is happening to us in our sinful world and receiving the encouragement and advice we need for living. And like David we too will, “….walk in your presence, O God, in your life-giving light.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭56:13‬ ‭NLT‬‬.