“I am so glad that you always keep me in your thoughts, and that you are following the teachings I passed on to you. But there is one thing I want you to know: The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”
1 Corinthians 11:2-3 NLT
Paul outlined an important principle in 1 Corinthians 11:3 about headship. However, first, we must define what “headship” means in the context of Biblical teaching, discipleship, and spiritual authority. Paul wrote that the ultimate Head of everything is God Himself. One of the mysteries of the Trinity is the order contained within it, and we read that God was the head of Jesus Christ. But that is obvious to anyone reading the Gospels and Jesus’ time on earth. There was a Father-Son relationship in place, and the first time this emerged into public display was after Jesus’ baptism by His cousin John. We read in Mark 1:10-11, “As Jesus came up out of the water, he saw the heavens splitting apart and the Holy Spirit descending on him like a dove. And a voice from heaven said, “You are my dearly loved Son, and you bring me great joy””. Jesus often made references to His Father in Heaven, and this is portrayed in places such as John 14:31 – 15:1. “But I will do what the Father requires of me, so that the world will know that I love the Father. Come, let’s be going. I am the true grapevine, and my Father is the gardener”. The respect and awe that Jesus demonstrated in His relationship with His Father in heaven were evident for all to see.
Paul also wrote that the head of man is Christ. This means that Christ is the ultimate authority and source of spiritual life for men, something that we male believers need to take extremely seriously. It defines an order that cuts across some popular misconceptions, because it puts the spiritual life of a man centrally in his relationship with God. So a believing man, regardless of his relationship with anyone else, is responsible and accountable to Christ for all that matters in his life. No one else has the authority to usurp that order.
The last thing that Paul highlighted in 1 Corinthians 11:3 was the principle that a man is the head of a woman. Such a thought is, understandably, difficult for women today to embrace because it is so counter-cultural in its concept and application. In Ephesians 5:21-24, Paul wrote, “And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Saviour of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything”. Once again, Paul wrote that a man is the head of a woman, in this case, his wife, and the word “submit” emerges in the text. But the man’s role in all of this is contained in the next two verses in Ephesians. “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word”. This principle of laying down one’s life for another is central to the relationship between a man and a woman, particularly when they are married. But we should note that the “church” contains both men and women (and children) and there is a need for every believer to nurture their spiritual lives in their relationship with Christ.
What is the impact of this hierarchical order on believers today, and in a society that promotes equality between the sexes? Firstly, male believers have a responsibility to look to Christ as their head, looking to Him for all aspects of their lives. In their decision-making. In their spiritual lives. Being accountable to Jesus for all that they do. Secondly, regarding women, they should not extend the principle of spiritual authority beyond what Paul’s teaching actually says. Men do not have a dictatorial right over a woman, although some men think they do. The principle of loving wives is a sacrificial one, and makes the man responsible for his wife’s well-being. However, there are many single women in society today who are quite comfortable with their singleness and have applied the principle of Christ’s headship to their spiritual lives. Without the opportunity of a male figure in their lives, they perhaps, when needed, should seek out the spiritual advice of their father, or pastor or some other male leader in their church or fellowship. But that is advice that applies to everyone when God’s counsel is required.
One other thing, some churches have female pastors. Paul wrote in 1 Timothy 2:12, “I do not let women teach men or have authority over them. Let them listen quietly”. I don’t believe that having a female pastor leading a church is ideal, particularly if the pastor is on their own. However, sometimes, when a male leader is absent from a church leadership, a woman will step into the role, and God will use her to lead His church. God will anoint such a woman for the task of a leader or a pastor.
Dear Heavenly Father. In this emotive and misunderstood area of Christian relations, we pray for Your guidance and leadership at every step. We love You, Lord, and worship You today, with a grateful heart for all that You have done for us. Amen.
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